18 Little Things To Start Doing Now

1. Be friends with different types of people. Don’t insulate your worldview by only socialising with those who are fundamentally the same as you.

2. Read. Do you know how few people are reading anything other than a few lines of an article here and there? Few. Do you know why it matters? Because a book you read in a few days this week can change the way you think about something for decades to come.

3. Question yourself, and honor your doubt. People who aren’t secure enough to do this stagnate.

4. Be willing to live the way other people won’t, so you can live the way other people can’t.

5. Learn how to cook things you enjoy more than you enjoy ordering out.

6. Learn how to budget your money in a way that makes you feel responsible and liberated, not restricted.

7. Put away a bit of money each month, however much you can afford (and don’t worry if there are setbacks along the way). Compounded interest is no joke.

8. Take on a side gig exclusively for the sake of that savings account. It will be exhausting for a while, but you’ll come out with new skills and the peace of mind that comes from having a fiscal cushion.

9. Get addicted to healthy pain. The kind that comes from clocking in hours of practice or maneuvering through the discomfort of training your mind to focus on one task until it’s complete. The more you channel your pain into something productive, the less you’ll be tempted to ruminate.

10. Get comfortable admitting when you’re wrong. There is no failure in making mistakes. There is failure in making mistakes and having too much pride to fix them.

11. Clean out your space, then work on adopting an attitude of “enough.” Do you really want to spend the next 10 years accumulating things? No, you don’t. Imagine what else all of that money and time and worry could have gone toward.

12. Only put things on your credit card that you will be able to remember in 3 months from now. If you look at how much is due and can’t remember what you spent it on, it was nothing worthwhile.

13. Do your soul-searching. Make lists of what you like and what you dislike; what you value and what you don’t; what you’re skilled at and what you’re not. Start cohering an idea of who you fundamentally are, but allow yourself to be open to that idea changing over time.

14. Reflect on your life, and ask yourself what your single most compelling motive is. Construct your narrative about it carefully – the way you justify your past actions will become your philosophy for future ones.

15. If you commit to nothing else, commit to a daily routine that consists of actions that, over time, will lead you to where you want to be.

16. Do things intentionally. Date intentionally. Work intentionally. Don’t let your life be a series of mindless, random actions that just seemed nice at the time, but are ultimately meaningless.

17. Take yourself as seriously as you want the world to. Behave accordingly.

18. Scrap it all and start over as many times as you need to. There’s no shame in not getting it right, there is, however, a lot of self-loathing that comes from knowing better, but not having the courage to do better.

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It Seems Common Sense Is Not Always Common Practice

When things are going great and everything is perfectly balanced in our lives, it’s easy to be happy. The true test of happiness comes when things aren’t going the way we’d like them to.

When life seems a little hectic, we often have to make a conscious decision to be happy and refuse to let chaos bring us down. Remember, the only person who can truly control your happiness is you.

If we look at Happiness Through Common Sense we can see how easy it sounds

PHYSICALLY

  • Sleep for eight hours 
  • Drink more water 
  • Take regular breaks throughout the day to break concentration
  • Workout two - five days per week. 
  • Get outside 
  • Eat  more greens
  • Avoid SUGAR
  • Avoid white starchy foods
  • Avoid foods that DON'T make you feel well  

IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP 

  • BE Present 
  • BE Appreciative 
  • GIVE the benefit of the doubt 
  • Make it : You and them… TEAM 
  • Make life FUN

SPIRITUALLY ( WHATEVER THAT MEANS TO YOU)

  • Have faith in what you believe to be true
  • Stay connected to that
  • Allow yourself to be AMAZED and in AWE
  • Have GRATITUDE 

I urge you to look at happiness in a more 'simple' way...Watch how easy Brendon Burchard explains happiness in this video - 

Compassion, The Missing Link For Optimal Health?

Treat others how you'd like to be treated - I'm sure many of us would lose count of how many times we were reminded of this as children.

Yet many adults seem to throw this saying out the window, in the name of urgency and efficiency, in the frantic pace of modern life.

Thanks to Eastern philosophies – and common sense – we know that being kind and showing compassion is absolutely essential to humanity, but what effect does it actually have an our health?

Researchers from Stanford University have found that as little as two weeks of practising compassion with intention has a positive physiological effect on the body. It can lower blood pressure, boost your immune response and increase your calmness. Essentially, if it was a pill we'd take it.

Not only does it have physiological effects, people who are actively practising compassion are happier and live a better life. It also has a significant effect on others, motivating them to be kinder, thus creating the ripple effect I'm obsessed with.

Encouraging people to sit quietly for 20 minutes a day and contemplate kindness, or write in a gratitude journal may enhance production of the hormone oxytocin. Oxytocin is typically released at times of nurturing and eases anxiety and stress-related symptoms. It is also thought to increase our generosity.

But how do you practise compassion for the person who cut you off on the road this morning, your colleague who thinks blunt and abrupt is the only way to communicate, or your partner who still hasn't figured out that socks and underwear don't actually magically fly to the washing machine?

5 WAYS TO DEEPEN YOUR COMPASSION

  1. Find common ground. Look for similarities, rather than differences when it comes to challenging relationships. This automatically calms your nervous system and assists with feelings of contentment.
  2. Listen. Often when we are listening to someone speak we are formulating a response, waiting for our opportunity to offer some advice. Instead just listen. Suspend your judgment and let them express themselves freely - respond to the sentiment not just the words, as many people have trouble communicating their thoughts clearly.
  3. Drop the judgment. Remember that everyone is on a journey in life, just as you are on your own. Instead of judging other people's decisions or opinions learn from them.
  4. Look inward. Question areas of your life where you lack compassion, trust, forgiveness or acceptance. Explore why this is the case, be patient and kind with yourself, but actively work on these areas.
  5. Random acts of kindness. Pick some flowers for a colleague, pay for a friend's lunch, send someone a thank-you card just for being them, or compliment a stranger. You never know how far this simple gesture will reach in that person's day. It might just mean they don't throw to anger, they think about how they can positively impact someone else's day, or that they simply walk away from your interaction with a smile on their face and warmth in their soul.

I leave you with this wonderful quote from the Dalai Lama. "If you want others to be happy, practise compassion. If you want to be happy, practise compassion."

Written by Dr Libby Weaver

Watch Dr Libby's TED TALK

"There is a crisis facing women's health." At TEDxQueenstown 2014 - Sense of place, Australasia's leading nutritional biochemist Dr Libby Weaver talks about how in today's age women are feeling the pressure of trying to be all things to all people and our current biochemistry has yet to catch up with this change in pace.